Ten Years On…….with Isle of Man Photographer Jason Kinrade

Portraits

Hello there and how are you today?

I can’t believe that we are already into October.  Although not a great fan of the colder and shorter days I have to admit that I love seeing the colours of nature change.  To me Autumn is a time to normally slow down however my Autumn is already starting to get busy with bookings. When was the last time you were photographed by me Jason Kinrade your Isle of Man Photographer?

Today I bought my new diary for 2021 and I will be releasing my new dates very soon.  So enough of me, October is  Breast Caner Awareness month and today I am going to share with you a remarkable ladies journey.  

I first met Judith though my job at Brightlife many years ago and recently our paths crossed again and we had a photo shoot to celebrate Judith’s journey, what follows is Judith’s story of her battle and journey.  We had such a great shoot creating this beautiful and captivating portraits so now I hand you over to the lady herself…….

Ten Years On….

August 2010

‘Life was good , a happy family life with my husband and children living on the prom in Peel doing a job I loved in Community Mental Health.

Fast forward several weeks and one morning in the shower I found a breast lump – it felt surreal and my mind didn’t want to believe it, but I rang the GP’s and was seen later that day. There began a long crazy journey through cancer treatment over the next three years. Initially it was thought it was very early stage DCIS ( Ductal carcinoma in situ) and had not spread, there was no rush , i could have surgery in a few months time and could carry on with my work, and rehearsals for the Peel Panto !

However in November it was found that the DCIS was hiding a tumour and the cancer cells had spread – suddenly everything changed. The planned surgery and radiotherapy now needed to happen as soon as possible. Trips back and forth to Liverpool followed and in early December I had a six hour operation at the Royal Liverpool Hospital, a few days later I was just about well enough to watch the Peel Panto from the audience, I still had two drains in situ post op which were concealed in my shoulder bag !

On Christmas Eve I was given the results of surgery, the cancer had spread through my lymph glands so chemo was added to the treatment package to start as soon as possible to give me the best chance, what a Christmas present…..

2011 was a year and a half – in January I had a Pic line fitted , chemotherapy sessions commenced, this had to halt for emergency surgery after I became dangerously ill will an abscess in March and a gruelling process of recovery from that followed, with a deep wound having to be cleaned and packed regularly. Once it had healed enough there was more chemotherapy in May, with severe side effects – TT week was spent as a Hospice inpatient for respite, and I was attending the Hospice Day Unit two days a week until I went to Clatterbridge. 

I was there for a month of radiotherapy ( as an inpatient because my mobility was so poor)  throughout August with weekend trips home which were exhausting but so worth it to be able to see the children.

On my return to the island the next phase of treatment started, a year of three weekly infusions at the chemosuite, thankfully these did not make me ill, but life was steadily disintegrating….

Tragically my youngest sister passed away after a long illness, Dad became very poorly with Parkinsons disease and Lewy Body Dementia, a phased return to work was disastrous, despite best efforts my marriage fell apart, I lost my home, career and two special friends Kate and Cath, we had christened ourselves the Three Musketeers and shared lots of good times at the Hospice Day Unit.

Often there seemed to be no light at the end of the tunnel – the only reason to keep going was my two children Jack and Kirsty – when all seemed hopeless they were what kept me here.

Active treatment for the cancer lasted from 2010 to September 2012 – I made it through thanks to the care and support of many special people at Nobles, the Royal Liverpool, Hospice IOM, Manx Cancer Help , the Hyperbaric Chamber and a wonderful small charity IOM Breastcare.

Gradually in the years since then I have picked up the pieces and made a new life and learnt to live with the long term effects of my treatment. Everyone is different, I was left with hearing damage, peripheral neuropathy , depressive episodes and anxiety and chronic pain caused by scar tissue, all of which I manage the best I can.

Over the last three years I have worked hard to lose weight and get fitter – being overweight was the one risk factor of concern to my Consultant in Liverpool at each annual checkup. A big motivator which got me started was being asked to be a model in the IOM Breastcare Fashion Show in 2017 and 2019 The first time I struggled to find clothes to fit my large body, second time I had lost six stone, choosing clothes was fun and I was much more confident. I have also had some adventures at home and abroad which have helped my confidence and wellbeing  – people often comment on my smile – only those close to me know the smile is often hiding alot, but I am now able to work part time ,and am continuing to build my fitness and am loving learning to kayak.

The session with Jason was a celebration of making it to ten years post cancer and a way of marking what I hope is the start of a new chapter in life. 

My children were 10 and 16 when I became ill, they are now young adults making their way in the world and I am immensely proud of both of them

I am still on anti cancer medication for another year or so and the worry never quite goes away but mostly I am happy and grateful to be here, and am profoundly thankful to those who stayed by my side along the way.’

Now this is such an amazing and positive story about Judith, please feel free to share…..

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22 Comments

  1. Vicky Harrop

    Brave and inspirational .

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    • Jason Kinrade

      Hi Vicky, she really is isn’t she……. So brave to share the story too…..

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    • Jude

      I think you know about about being both those things too Vicky , thanks for the lovely comment xx

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  2. Margot Dahn

    My absolutely gorgeous spotty dog forever friend! You have never ever changed Jude, as folk say, truly beautiful inside and out…….and yes, your smile , it lasts forever 😘😘😘😘😘😘

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    • Jude

      Aw Margot you sweetheart , thank you for those lovely words, love from your spotty friend ! 🤣😘😘

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  3. Ali

    Judith I count you as one of my closest friends now. Who would of thought that when you came for a
    Massage that day we would
    Just click and get on so well! Fast forward three years and I’m so
    Proud of you for your resilience and positive attitude to
    Life. You inspire me. Here’s to many many more years of friendship , and good health to you. Love you lots ❤️ Xxx

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    • Jason Kinrade

      Thats lovely to hear Ali, Judith is full of lovely energy with the most beautiful smile that just radiates…. a very special lady…

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    • Jude

      Ali, you are a gem of a friend, thank you for your lovely words xxxx

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  4. Hilary

    A fabulous inspirational lady, love you dearly Judith! Look forward to catching up with you soon. You look sensational sweetie❤️😘🥰

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    • Jason Kinrade

      An inspirational lady…… and a joy to photograph….

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      • Jude

        Thanks so much Jason, from joyful Jude ! Xxx

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    • Joanne

      Wow what a journey you’ve been on, and you’re right because you would never know behind that huge smile. To see you enjoying life now, making the most of every experience is just a pleasure to see. Love Jo xxx

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    • Jude

      well Hil, you have kept me afloat many times when I felt I was sinking , love you to the moon and back my gorgeous friend xxx

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    • Jude

      Hil , you were a rock without whom I would not have made it through. Your kindness, love and no nonsense mentality saved my sanity many a time and you are a very precious friend- here’s to sharing a gin or a Pimms next summer and sharing fun in the sun en Espana next winter xxxx

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  5. Catriona

    An amazing, courageous, gutsy, warm and lovely lady. ❤️ I am so glad I know her. Her spirit shines through in these images. 🤗

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    • Jason Kinrade

      She is indeed Catriona and thank you to you for putting us in touch with one another…x

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    • Jude

      Thank you from the bottom of my heart Catriona, it’s you who made this experience possible ! Xx

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  6. John Riley

    You are an inspiration to us all, Jude. Reading all about your long journey through cancer in its many forms should make us realise how lucky some of us are who have not had to make this journey. Keep smiling! Audrey is in hospital at the moment having treatment and tests but, hopefully, will be discharged soon. Another one who is an inspiration to us all. We are so pleased you joined Musicale and we love having you with us.

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    • Jude

      Thanks for your lovely comments John and my love to you and Audrey, hope her recovery is going smoothly xx

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  7. Audrey Humphreys

    Jude you are so inspirational and I’m so lucky to be your friend. What a story and the next chapter is here… “Live in the sunshine, swim in the sea, drink the wild air…” (Ralph Waldo Emerson)

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    • Jude

      Aw Audrey you are a gem , thank you and so glad I went to Cambridge and found such a special friend ! Xxx

      Reply

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